THE GRATITUDE MENTOR-GRATITUDE :A NEW LEVEL OF AWARENESS: 2018

Tuesday, August 21, 2018

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Today is the fast of the 17th of Tammuz
Why in Judaism do we have all these fasts, commemorations etc?
There are many reasons, national, individual , spiritual etc
One perspective is that what happens outside of us is a reflection of what is happening inside of us
Jerusalem represents all that surrounds our heart, the Temple Mount and the Holy of Holies the innermost part of our heart.
When everything is eventually pierced and breached, everything changes ,individually and nationally as it did for us as the heart is the seat of emotion and , emotion is motion.

When we allow destructive, negative influences to enter our hearts we can unfortunately find that happening in our lives around us.
When we pursue the heart when it has become to some extent dark it can tear us apart and kick us out of the park , in our case out of Israel.
May we all be blessed to work at filling our hearts with grateful light so we gain clarity on what is worth the fight , finding strength and might even on seemingly darkest of nights which leads to a warm beautiful morning that shines ever so bright.

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If you are going through challenging times there may be many people who have best intentions and may even truly care.It is nice to have people who love you and care.
However understand that people project their fears,concerns,issues,worries on you and don't mean to freak you out
Stand strong and faith it until you make it

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See The Diamond Not The Stone

A man held a huge diamond in his hand but all he saw was a stone.People were awed by the size of the diamond but all he saw was a stone.He threw the stone at a tree for fun, people gasped but all he saw was a stone.Years passed and people were bewildered but all he saw was a stone.Yet one day well into old age he suddenly saw a sparkle and eventually realized that he had always had a diamond and not a stone.The pain of years lost with something of such value in his presence unused ,neglected was almost unbearable

G-D has given us all such a diamond and that diamond is the divine you.If you only had an inkling of what your potential was ,how high you could climb ,what you could achieve in this world and the next,every moment would be precious to you ,you would feel the strength of your G-D given wings and soar even in darkness .As when you you see the diamond and not the stone even in darkest night it will sparkle from within and cast light on your own unique life changing path--Miracle Class Living

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There is a simple truth
If you do not value yourself you do not work on yourself.
So if you are not working on yourself you do not value yourself
THE REST IS EXCUSES

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When you complain you cannot be grateful
When you are angry you cannot be grateful
When you are scared you cannot be grateful
When you despair you cannot be grateful
When you think only of yourself you cannot be grateful
When you are sad you cannot be grateful...etc

When you are grateful what you cannot currently change you learn how to positively engage
When you are grateful you can find happiness
When you are grateful you can be resilient
When you are grateful you strengthen relationships
When you are grateful your fears weaken
When you are grateful you make less excuses
When you are grateful you find strength in hope
When you are grateful you never reach the end of your rope.
When you are grateful you see more open doors...etc

When you are grateful the world you see changes and the life you lead transforms no matter your circumstances

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Some Gratitude Quotes
“At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” – Albert Schweitzer

It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” ― Melody Beattie on Gratitude

We may be said to be truly alive in those moments when we allow gratitude to reveal the amazing treasures within us and outside of us - Avi Perez

Never stop unwrapping the gift of you and your life - Avi Perez

If you aren’t grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you would be happy with more.” – Roy T. Bennett

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Grateful People Ignite A Powerful Desire To Give Which Enables Us To Feel What It Is To Truly Live

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Sprinkle some gratitude and reveal some miracles

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If Gratitude creates a relationship then for a relationship to endure you have to live,express and show
Gratitude

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Most of us consciously and/or subconsciously have become used to thinking that others should see the world as we do,believe as do
So when we choose to be offended by what others do or say we are dismayed by the reaction of others if it is not similar to our own

The humble make space for others to be as they realize that the world needs you to be you and me to be me

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What is a Miracle?
One definition is something that is totally unexpected, something you never considered possible, something beyond what you have been told is natural.

The minute you understand that ,no matter what, you never have the fullest picture about yourself , about life etc you start to realize that what was accepted, what was believed etc is not what has to be no matter the odds, statistics,evidence etc you enter MIRACLE class, the realm where, no matter what is, anything and everything can be because nothing and no one has the fullest picture only G-D .
So you open yourself up to living each day
Beyond who you thought you were yesterday
Beyond the life you thought you could have yesterday
Beyond the achievements you thought you could achieve yesterday
Beyond what you thought you could experience yesterday
Beyond what you thought you could feel yesterday

S.B.T. (Soul Based thinking)
There is always more to you and your life and that is found in Miracle Class Living
To Your Miraculous Life
Avi Perez
Founder of S.B.T. Coaching

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True Gratitude Cannot Exist In Your Comfort Zone As
Gratitude Is Also The Understanding That There Is Always More To You & Your Life

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GRATITUDE RITUAL-1
Write s gratitude letter to someone once a week even if you do not send it.
Thinking about the person,the good they have done and do etc will boost your gratitude and touch your heart

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Make a gratitude date once a week with your partner,spouse,family etc and discuss what you are thankful for

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GRATITUDE RITUAL -3
The"Not"Prayer
Thank you Hashem/I am thankful for
Not having to bathe in a dirty stream or an ice cold tundra
Not having an outhouse but a toilet inside with plumbing
Not having to sleep under a bridge
Not having to eat only water and bread
Not having only one shirt and pants
Not having my kids needing to walk 10 miles to school
Not having to read by candle light....the list is endless

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GRATITUDE RITUAL-4
Each time you eat or drink or as many times as you can
Stop
Chew/Drink slowly
Experience
Consider
Cherish
Savor the gift,the blessing,the miracle that many around the world only dream about and/or pray for

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Gratitude Ritual-5
Mental Subtraction of the positives and eveything assumed and taken for granted
Consider your life down to the smallest detail
Without the people ,things,abilities,experiences,achievements, in it no matter how small,simple,seemingly mundane etc

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Fifteen suggestions to keep your relationship vibrant
( Yes, it takes effort but your spouse is worth it)

1.Never take your spouse for granted in any way

2.Notice and look for all the good they do and the effort they make for you ,the children in general

3.Take time every day to sit by yourself and think about what your spouse means to you ,how much you love them,what you have and do learn from them etc

4. No matter how your day was take a genuine interest in the day your spouse had.Listen , be fully present and empathize.

5.Always say I love you,it is never understood , it has to be said and meant.

6.Do stuff together regularly

7.keep the lines of communication open always.Talk, share , not every talk has to be intense.

8.Never act your age, act how you both want to feel with each other

9.Complement your spouse daily on even the smallest of things and mean it.

10.No matter where you go ,what you do etc find ways for your spouse to know that they are your top priority.

11. Make what is important to your spouse important to you even if initially it is not important to you. Always try and be up to date as to what your spouse wants, needs, likes etc

12. Never ever dismiss or devalue what your spouse feels, has to say etc no matter how much you disagree.Acknowledgement does not mean agreement but it does show respect.

13.There is no place for accounting and demands for reciprocity in a healthy relationship( Obviously there are exceptions). We do for each other because we care for and love each other and want make each other happy. Always ask " What can I do to help etc?"

14. Go out of your way to make your spouse feel special, wanted desired , beautiful etc. There are so many ways to do so and your spouse is worth the effort.

15.Never ever try and change your spouse ,love , accept and respect them exactly as they are and then you both have a greater chance of growing together.

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Gratitude Takes Us From Being
M.I.A.- M.issing I.n A.verage To
B.I.G.-B.uilt I.n G.reatness

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Working On Gratitude Can Help Prevent Suicide

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When you focus on what you can do and not on what you need to avoid you avoid the negative narrative loop and open yourself up to possibility- "Can"ditioning the Psychology Of Possibility

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What are you not making time for that you know you should?

Everything has an appointed season, and there is a time for every matter under the heaven.(לַכֹּ֖ל זְמָ֑ן וְעֵ֥ת לְכָל־חֵ֖פֶץ תַּ֥חַת הַשָּׁמָֽיִם)...Kohelet 3:1.

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May I Assure You Of One Thing?
You have something to give the world that no one else past , present or future could hope to match and that is
YOU
So with each new day you are blessed with, no matter your age or circumstance, don't feel sorry yourself , feel how blessed the world is because you have been given another day to discover ,without comparing you or your life to anyone else's life, more about the endless, amazing , powerful you that has been forged Divine and is meant to shine.

Don't treat your life casually and you will never be a casualty of your unique life

S.B.T. Coaching- Soul Based Thinking, taking you further and higher than you ever previously dreamed possible

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When we say
Can't you see?
Don't you understand?
Don't you care?
Can't you feel it?
Don't you hear me ?etc
We are actually saying
Can't you see as I want you to see?
Don't you understand as I want you to understand?
Don't you care as I want you to care?
Can't you feel as I think you should feel it?
Don't you hear me as I want you to hear? etc

We see, experience etc the world only as we do, as us,no matter what, but yet many times consciously and/or subconsciously we expect others to be us as us what I call the " me -clone" syndrome

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There is a common myth "That's the way I feel, there is nothing I can do about it."-WRONG
Your feelings are a direct result of the your thoughts, actions,& self talk( conscious and subconscious)
Here is a simple formula to change how you feel

Change your thoughts, actions, self talk and constantly repeat your new thoughts, actions and self talk in the specific situations and your feelings will change in those specific situations( and others a beneficial ripple effect)
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How do you change your subconscious thoughts and self talk?
Constant daily commitment to repeating your new thoughts and self talk without engaging the old ones and eventually these new ones will supplant your old ones and you will notice this when you start feeling differently

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If you choose to let go of hope and are not open to believe
You will never go forward and only regress as there is no such thing as stagnation
When you do not believe you will not do what is needed to achieve
When you lose hope you drain yourself of your energy needed to climb your important slope

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This Post Can Start A Tremendous Change In Your Life Now

Any positive ,productive,situation , experience, pastime, endeavor, person ,relationship etc that you decide not to remain detached from , not to stay on the periphery but rather to engage it , them as much as you can without any assumptions, preconceived ideas, limiting beliefs, thoughts, values etc you learn more, understand more, grow more, feel more, achieve more , receive more , become more aware, connect more,discover more

How is that many of us sit detached from the fullness of our lives, how much more there could be to us and our lives, arrogantly assuming we know our limits, how far we can go , what is truly possible for us etc, resigning ourselves to what we think life has to be, to what we think the limits are of what we could do feel, achieve , experience etc?

How is it that we do not engage our lives fully without any assumptions, preconceived ideas, limiting beliefs, thoughts, values etc so that we learn more, understand more, grow more, feel more, achieve more , receive more , become more aware, connect more,discover more , feel more excited ,
about ourselves, others, life in general etc and continually find how much more there is to us ,to others , to the world and to our lives?

So many of us are too afraid to face ourselves and do the work to open our eyes to all that we have missed, been taking for granted etc and we slip into the slumber of living life on automatic
Time to stop the slumber of life on automatic
Time to for all us excuseaholics, blameaholics,comfort zone junkies, those who are addicted to distraction,missing in average to go to rehab.
Time to become greater than our fears

Those who value their lives , themselves work on themselves.
Those who do not work on themselves do not value themselves

We always charge our phones to 100% but live our lives at maybe 15%

Time for a new level of living which I call miracle class which we start achieving through the awareness that active gratitude brings going beyond what we think we know at any one time

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Here is a paradigm shift for many
No matter how bad the choices you have made are, the damage you have done , the mistakes you have made, your eternal worth and your strengths are untouchable as they have been given to you by G-d

Your bad, idiotic, negative behavior etc only serves to hide them from you and the world
You may even have to pay a serious price for your choices , behavior etc BUT your eternal worth and your strengths are there for you to access and make the most of whatever your circumstances are or wherever they are.

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Help a person choose to see what they have to be grateful for and they will find what to be hopeful for as well

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H.O.P.E. Hold on, pain ends. ~ Unknown

Hope is one of the most powerful driving forces in our lives and without it we cease to effectively function. A lack of hope is the precursor to severe depression. ~ Tim Brownson

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The intensity and strength of the manifestation of gratitude in your life is commensurate with how you much of your life you live on automatic

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Gratitude evokes the awareness that you have been living in grey because of the amazing life colors it reveals

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July 11

Here is another post that can , if you let it, ignite a light that will facilitate a change that will reveal a life you would not want to exchange

Who would walk through a palace and leave the lights off?
Who would go to a museum and ask them to turn off the lights?
Who would go to an amusement park and ask them to turn off all the rides?
Who would go watch a movie at the cinema and ask them if instead one could sit in the dark?
Who that loves soccer would go to a match and wear a blindfold?
Who would go to a lecture that they wanted to listen to and tell the lecturer not to speak?
Who would answer their phone to speak to someone they wanted to and decide not to speak?
Which Gallery owner , on a night when many visitors are supposed to come would turn the paintings towards the wall so no one could see them?...etc ..etc..etc

These questions seem ridiculous?
How many years have we chosen
to live on automatic
to live with the lights off
to detach ourselves from seeing and appreciating more
to choose to sit in the darkness instead of leaping out of our comfort zones into the fuller lives we could be living

We all in the hobbies we love, outings we love, pastimes we love etc want to get the fullness, the richness, the maximum potential and possibility of the experience etc but with our own lives:
We arrogantly think we know all that we can do , feel, achieve , experience.
We allow fears to keep us on the sidelines of our fullest lives
We balk at the effort we might need to engage our lives fully aware with all that we have
We have stopped dreaming and we live in fantasy which is easier than acting upon our dreams
The responsibility of greatness leaves many with the unwillingness to explore and discover who they really are , can be and to unlimit themselves to the lives they could have and the better versions of themselves that they could gift the world with

Those that value the meaningful over the fleeting
Those that choose to gratify their souls and not their ego
Those that choose not to treat their lives casually
Those who understand that they will never have the biggest picture so they pursue their widest , fullest life with hunger
Those know that they dont know what they dont know
Those who choose to stop feeling sorry for themselves
Those who get that it is not only what you have it is how you do it and who you become with it
Those who want to feel truly alive, excited etc
Those who have learnt to love themselves despite their mistakes
Those who choose to learn from other but never to compare themselves to others etc etc

Those who
Will push their limits until they expand
Will fight with might for their unique light
Will put their heart into all they do
Will stay open to what can be instead of incarcerated by what seemingly has to be

THOSE WHO PASSIONATELY DESIRE, WANT THE MORE THAT THERE ALWAYS IS TO THEM AND TO THEIR LIVES

Those who
Will choose to see life as a gift
Will choose to see life as happening for them and not to them
Will choose to see challenges as on the way and not in the way

Our fullest lives are found in the journeys we choose to take and not the destinations we make
The peak is at the top of the mountain so that we find meaning , purpose, joy , fulfillment in the climb

Constant gratitude turns the switch on to seeing life , ourselves, others etc with new sight , in empowering light in alignment with our Divine design that was always mean to shine

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A Litmus Test For True ,Deep,Active Gratitude
You Are Never Bored And If You Are, It Lasts But A Few Seconds

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How to see what you do not yet see and continuously expand your sight

1) Accept that everything you see, feel, understand etc is your subjective view etc as it seen through your eyes , from your world and nothing has to be your way.

2) Assume nothing ,stay open to everything, open to receive all life has to offer.

3) Be fully present in the situation, interaction, experience etc.

4) Question everything and take nothing for granted

5) Reevaluate always any beliefs, thoughts, understandings, facts, findings, focus, definitions etc

6) Ask always" what can I learn here?"

7)Get as much information as possible , get the biggest picture
Make certain that you are not in any tunnel vision

8)Pay keen attention , observe, look for what stands out, what does not fit,what is missing etc.

9) Always try and look at the situation etc in a few different ways

10) Ask people their perspectives etc and always endeavor to understand their intention, meaning etc as they wished to convey it.
11) Listen in order to understand not in order to reply

12) Take nothing personally , be honest with yourself and don"t let ego blind you

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TO SEE MIRACLES WORK DAILY ON CREATING AND MAINTAINING A LENS OF UNCOMPROMISING GRATITUDE

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How you choose to see yourself determines how you will see others and filter them in

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We Fall At Times So Much That We Want To Resign Ourselves To "that's me ,come what may"
Well,When Your Despair Sets In Know That G-d's Love And Forgiveness Has Barely Begun
Value The Gift Of Your Life Too Much To Stay Down And Know That One Day You Will Get Up And Stay Up
Do I hear an AMEN???

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Whatever you have to let go of in life never let go of you,if you do are YOU really living?

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GRATITUDE-reduces stress and trauma

A 2006 study published in Behavior Research and Therapy found that Vietnam War veterans with higher levels of gratitude experienced lower rates of post-traumatic stress disorder

A 2003 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that gratitude was a major contributor to resilience following the terrorist attacks on September 11.

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ne Of The Greatest Ways To Show Gratitude For A Gift To The Giver Is To Show Your Love For The Gift And To Use It Fully
Are We Showing Gratitude To The Ultimate Giver For The Gift Of Our Unique Lives?

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Thank You Hashem for Your constant Providence
Each new moment is of that clear evidence
I am cosmically nothing
But with You I am everything
In gratitude I put my all even into the seemingly mundane
With humility assuming nothing and staying open to all the life there is to give and gain.

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Ein Od Milvado
If you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue. Make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved, and the need to judge. Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time. It's very important to be aware of them every time they come up.
Deepak Chopra

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The Destination You Have In Mind Will Determine The Journey You Will Find.

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G-d asks no man whether he will accept life.
That is not the choice.
You must take it.
The only choice is how.
Henry Ward Beecher

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TRAINING YOURSELF DAILY TO LIVE GRATEFULLY DOWN TO THE SMALLEST DETAIL ABILITY,FUNCTION ETC
TO SEE EVERY MOMENT OF LIFE AS A GIFT
WILL PREVENT OR MINIMIZE GREATLY THE CHANCE OF DEPRESSION SETTING
IT CAN BE TREMENDOUSLY HARD AND TAXING BUT G-D KNOWS YOU ARE WORTH THE EFFORT MAYBE SO SHOULD YOU

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Nurturing hope is not always about the hope being fulfilled but the life one is able to live on the wings of hope

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Someone who very sadly is terminally ill wrote

" Now that I'm terminally ill, I realize where there's still life there is always hope. Money problems. Relationship problems. Divorce. Bankruptcy. Legal troubles. Family problems. Work problems. Chronic conditions. All of these are no fun, but can be dealt with. Overcome. Terminal illness? Not so much. Try not to sweat the small stuff"

Time to let go of fleeting gratification , ego worship and cherish all that we have NOW...appreciating how big and huge the simplest of things in life are
Living a life of constant gratitude will put life into your attitude

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What we do not actively appreciate we de facto depreciate
And then what happens to the quality and fullness of your life and the life that could be?

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Deferred Gratification Facilitates Increased Appreciation

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Allowing Gratitude To Capture What We Would Normally Dismiss #1

If I just sit on the couch for moment or a few minutes and then get up , nothing really changes, I continue on automatic, feel bored , indifferent , just think of something else etc

However once I inject this seemingly routine mundane action and moment with fully present active gratitude everything changes almost immediately

Wow I am so thankful that:
I have a couch to sit on when I need it
I have a home where I can have this couch
How many around the world dream of the comfort a simple couch?
I can sit on this couch undisturbed for these few moments
I can disconnect for a few minutes and relax
I can sit without pain and discomfort
I am able to get up from the couch

This injection of gratitude into the seemingly mundane gave life to moments that would have been dismissed, Releasing a cascade of positive neurotransmitters and hormones positively boosting my state of mind which in turn empowers me to face interactions that follow more positively , productively and effectively thus boosting my quality of life and minimizing greatly needless discord

Inject gratitude throughout the day into the smallest, the simplest , and the most mundane and you transform your life, state of mind , relationships revealing the magnificent in the seemingly mundane.

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One of the 48 ways to acquire Torah is
נושא בעול עם חברו
Carrying Your Fellow's Burden
How do we truly realize the burden someone is carrying?
After all we are different people ,different filters,atitudes,beliefs,values,experiences etc etc

Here is one way
Without judgement,remove your world and through presence,interest,care ,striving to understand as the other person chooses to see,feel,view,act,react etc even if what you would do is totally different.

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The Chacham knows he is always a Talmid
That is why a wise knowledgable person in Torah is known as a Talmid Chacham

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If someone means the world to you,Gratitude makes their world mean something to you

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The Talmud (Sanhedrin)tells us Hashem wants the heart
This is the secret to staying motivated
Having a positive emotional connection to what you are doing will keep you motivated

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Thank You Hashem
I open my eyes in this new day
Never having known that it would come my way
Now that it is here I am humbled and in awe
That You have given me one day more
How do I thank You for this tremendous lift?
By living each second as if everything and everyone is a magnificent gift

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Gratitude can turn
A house into a home
Food into a feast
A job into a craft
problems into opportunities
A car into a chariot
Self pity into Self respect
Excuses into action
An argument into a disagreement
Discord into discourse
SImple pleasures into the greatest treasures
clothes into garments
health into wealth
nature into miracles
Criticism into an opportunity to grow
Differences into an opportunity to learn

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If you realized what so many others are going through you would,in gratitude, find the strength to get through what you need to

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Grateful people forgive with ease and let go of any slight
as they do not want to
lose a second of hugging the light

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Gratitude opens the eyes that hubris would keep closed

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Gratitude Keeps Bridges From Burning

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Gratitude keeps despair from tainting the air
Allowing us to realize that no matter what life is a gift beyond compare

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Take A Minute Out Of Your Day
Consider what and how much others have lost and their daily cost.
And start seeing the gain,despite any pain, in what you have instead of a reason to complain

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Take A Minute Out Of Your Day
Consider how quickly things could change.
With humility be open to all the good and wonder a moment has to offer.

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Thank You Hashem
Every new day is a reason to dance
When you open your eyes having been given another chance
No matter how life seems to look at you askance
A new day is hope, a blessing, a miracle, a grateful possibility to advance

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Thank You Hashem

What I have today big or small , abundant or bare

To complain about would result in constant compare

So I take pause to choose and let go of doubt
That in truth what I have I would not want to be without

To yearn for more fuels motivation
But has no meaning if done without present appreciation

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Gratitude Fills You When The Way You Have Thus Far Chosen To Interpret Life Empties You

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Thank You Hashem
How can I look at each day the same?
When each new day is designed to keep my soul aflame
So never will I treat each one I am blessed with as a game

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Another Refreshing Perspective On Chodesh Elul

Everyone says"Teshuva Time"...The King is In The Field.." Take things seriously..be filled with fear and awe... this is leading up to the Day Of Judgment, To Yom Kippur etc etc

No doubt this time is a very special time.....but sometimes it sounds like well , no matter what you have done during the year , be serious now, pay attention, value your life now, repent now etc

Should we not be taking our lives seriously , valuing our lives, doing Teshuva etc the whole year through?
Of course we should!!!!!
So whats up??
I think that one important message for Chodesh Elul is..dont despair...don't give up on yourself...no matter how many times you have fallen, no matter how far you have fallen etc etc, their is always hope , things can change for the better...never ever give up .... So we get a booster month, where The King Is In The Field ...and we can do so much , go forward in ways that may have taken us longer during the year..we just have to want to ,take our lives seriously and put in the effort.

So much so that You Kippur...the most serious day of the year should be full of Repentance and Joy...Why??
Because we are filled with Joy that it is Hashem who judges us, no the limited perspective and bias of man....for when we have lost hope, think we cannot be loved any more,reached our fill of possibility, reached our limit of forgiving ourselves etc we take joy in knowing that Hashem has barely begun and we go forward with Joy

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Gratitude is a mental shift that has far-reaching results. Here are a few:

Gratitude makes us good to be around.
Gratitude recognizes the best in people, without being blind to their challenges.
Gratitude validates others, something everyone longs to hear.
Gratitude suppresses the cry for “more,” of the fleeting and unimportant and all the accompanying vices.
Gratitude empowers us to find inner solutions and move forward, instead of blaming others.
Gratitude gives you true clarity and focus on how your successes came to be.
Practicing Gratitude gives you the confidence to do what scares you, jump out of your comfort zone and continuously catapult your life forward.
Gratitude can be amazingly , positively cathartic

"Your mindset influences your perspective, your beliefs, your values, which influence your actions and ultimately your results."

“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.”

― Ralph Waldo Emerson

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What was life like 600 years ago?

We, even those of us barely above the breadline, are living in extreme abundance in comparison.That does not solve our woes but puts them in perspective and with gratitude fuels us to push on and forward with miracles that abound and surround us
Thank You Hashem

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Complacency is the curse that may invite wake up calls. A.ctive G.ratitude E.nrichment keeps the curse at bay and facilitates blessing.
May G-d bless us all that we merit to wake up through goodness and blessing and through gratitude live and grow on the wings of even more abundant blessing and miracles

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There is no person in existence that has nothing to offer or does not have a story to tell.
Just because you many not see it does not mean that it does not exist.

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Constant Awareness Of What you Feel Is What For You Becomes Real

Emotion is the flame that ignites our values , beliefs, thoughts etc and the ones we choose to ascribe to any person, experience etc in our lives determines how we live our lives

Your State Of Mind Reveals The Life You Will Find

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Gratitude peels away routine and reveals miracles

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Pay Attention To Timing Even In The Smallest Of Things And You Will See Miracles

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Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.-Viktor Frankel

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Find five reasons to be honestly grateful for yourself and watch your self image changee.

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Everything can change within the blink of an eye so, with gratitude,don't let your fullest life pass you by no matter your age and/or circumstances

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What and/or whom are you grateful for in your life that you lose focus of when your attention is focused on what is missing on your life?

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No matter the glitz on the outside
Happiness is grown on the inside

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Gratitude Grows In The Garden Of Humility

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Actively grateful people are more relaxed,less anxious and less stressed thus gratitude helps in the management of chronic asthma of which stress and anxiety can be triggers.

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To me the best way to pay tribute to those who no longer have the gift of life is to live Gratefully...Never Killing Time But Rather Putting All Of You Into The Time You Have

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Most religiously observant Jews have passed the point of inner debate about "Should I eat Kosher?"
"Of course I will it is part of me permanently ,no longer a debate"
So too with other things in life you want to achieve,overcome etc.Make it a part of you ,not something outside of you,some time limited thing,something you will try out work passionately to get it passed the point of inner debate,making it a part of you for good,permanently and take your life to a different level of quality,meaning and achievement

This is also the secret for those who want to do Teshuva without relapsing after Yom Kippur ...get past the point of inner debate

How do you get past the point of inner debate?

Allow me to show you how
Avi Perez
S.B.T. Coach
Reality Therapy Certified
Self Talk Coaching Therapy And Training
theselftalkcoach@gmail.com

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People who live in extremes never appreciate the now for they are always focused on looking at what in their opinion is better
What could be better never diminshes the beauty and the possibillity in your now-Dont let it!!!!

Saturday, January 13, 2018

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Constant gratitude maintains one's sanity.I know it does for me

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Sometimes we think people are "impossible "...until they are gone(G-d forbid)
Make space for people to fully express themselves and find joy in what is positively possible

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All true treasures are worth digging for and G-d decided that the authentic , beautiful , unique, irreplaceable you is one treasure this world needs and so do you
So never give up digging..there is always more to you

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A person who does not hold on to hope for a compelling future
Will go no further than their past

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No day is a guarantee ,understanding that,placing it in your heart, will fill you with gratitude finally setting you free to live life fully engaged,kicking ego to the curb and opening yourself up to being all that G-d created you to be each and every day

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The Thing About Miracles Is If You Choose Not To Believe In The Them You Will Not See Them Or Experience Them

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Modeh Ani with Kavannah gives a dopamine rush which gives you a great start to the day

"Feelings of gratitude directly activate brain regions associated with the neurotransmitter dopamine. Dopamine feels good to get, which is why it’s generally considered the “reward” neurotransmitter. But dopamine is also almost important in initiating action. That means increases in dopamine make you more likely to do the thing you just did. It’s the brain saying, “Oh, do that again.”

Gratitude can have such a powerful impact on your life because it engages your brain in a virtuous cycle. Your brain only has so much power to focus its attention. It cannot easily focus on both positive and negative stimuli. It is like a small child: easily distracted. Oh your tummy hurts? Here’s a lollipop. So you lost your job? Isn’t it wonderful we’re having KFC for dinner? On top of that your brain loves to fall for the confirmation bias, that is it looks for things that prove what it already believes to be true. And the dopamine reinforces that as well. So once you start seeing things to be grateful for, your brain starts looking for more things to be grateful for. That’s how the virtuous cycle gets created."--- Psychology today

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The Key To Finding Some Heaven On Earth is
In the quality Of your chosen Narrative
The strength Of Your Gratitude
And how far you are open and willing to to believe and see that although there may be "nothing new under the sun" there is so much more above the sun.