The Gratitude Mentor

Fifteen suggestions to keep your relationship vibrant
( Yes, it takes effort but your spouse is worth it)

1.Never take your spouse for granted in any way

2.Notice and look for all the good they do and the effort they make for you ,the children in general

3.Take time every day to sit by yourself and think about what your spouse means to you ,how much you love them,what you have and do learn from them etc

4. No matter how your day was take a genuine interest in the day your spouse had.Listen , be fully present and empathize.

5.Always say I love you,it is never understood , it has to be said and meant.

6.Do stuff together regularly

7.keep the lines of communication open always.Talk, share , not every talk has to be intense.

8.Never act your age, act how you both want to feel with each other

9.Complement your spouse daily on even the smallest of things and mean it.

10.No matter where you go ,what you do etc find ways for your spouse to know that they are your top priority.

11. Make what is important to your spouse important to you even if initially it is not important to you. Always try and be up to date as to what your spouse wants, needs, likes etc

12. Never ever dismiss or devalue what your spouse feels, has to say etc no matter how much you disagree.Acknowledgement does not mean agreement but it does show respect.

13.There is no place for accounting and demands for reciprocity in a healthy relationship( Obviously there are exceptions). We do for each other because we care for and love each other and want make each other happy. Always ask " What can I do to help etc?"

14. Go out of your way to make your spouse feel special, wanted desired , beautiful etc. There are so many ways to do so and your spouse is worth the effort.

15.Never ever try and change your spouse ,love , accept and respect them exactly as they are and then you both have a greater chance of growing together.